InRangeTV, 2024 ▶ Obvious ally or grey man?

should you look like an obviously safe ally or try to stay under the radar?

Tldr

• Survival is always the first priority
• If you have privilege, use it
• You can be a proactive ally, without being an obvious ally

Timestamps

• 00:00 - Start of video
• 01:10 - Reading the question

Question

• can you speak a bit about how to balance being a “grey man” vs being a clear ally when out in the wild?
• Does self preservation of public take priority over projecting a commitment to reject oppression?
• Are these two concepts fundamentally incompatible?

Notes

• You bring in less risk to be more vocal
• more privilege allows you to say more thus it is your responsibility to do so
• unfair to ask those at risk to take an even greater risk, in order to fight a fight they shouldn’t have to fight in the first place
• adding yet another target on your back is a hard ask
• Survival always comes first
• depends on what you’re doing and where you are
  • sometimes you need to be proactively provocative
• don’t need to be an obvious ally in order to be an ally
• you can still be a proactive ally without being an obvious ally
• if you’re not surviving, you’re not here for the fight tomorrow
• if you have privlige, use it!